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Do Fear and Dishonesty Interconnect?

How many times have you said “I’m fine” when asked how you are? I’ve been trying to find a new answer to that question since losing my daughter, Lacy, 11 years ago. I feel like a liar when giving the most common answer: “I’m fine.” Now, I want to be honest.

The truth is, I haven’t truly been fine on many of those days. When I counted, I realized there are more than 4,000 of them. It makes me wonder: Over all that time, how often have I hidden how I really felt just to make others more comfortable?

Thanks to God, I am now more comfortable saying, “I am doing the best that I can.” 

It’s not a big deal, right? Just a little more honesty. But let me tell you, honesty has led to more genuine conversations. I have seen firsthand that when we are more transparent with others, people feel that they have permission to be more transparent with us. I have had complete strangers look me in the eye and say something personal and relational just because I gave them a real answer. 

I also used to struggle when people would ask me where my kids live and if they are close by. I now answer honestly with this statement: “My daughter is in Heaven and my sons live within three miles of me.”  

“Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.” Ephesians 4:25 

Honesty fosters trust and unity within the body of Christ. In other words, when you choose honesty, even when it’s hard, it brings favor on you. God is pleased with us when we are honest. I have found that, at times, being in a room full of grievers makes being honest difficult. Not all of us are ready for some truths about grief and loss. I never assume my truth is anyone else’s truth, but because of the community we are forming and because God’s word is our handbook, we continue to bring truth to the hurting.

I realized at our last moms’ retreat that some of the pain I still need to work through is forgiving myself for how numb I had become during the final years of Lacy’s addiction. I realized that I wasn’t honest with my feelings during that time. I couldn’t name my feelings. I was hiding from the truth. This can happen in the nightmare of addiction, and it can happen in grief. One of the exercises we use at our Mini Mom Retreats is writing down our feelings in percentages on a feelings chart. We do this at the beginning of the weekend and again when we leave. Honesty, through God’s word, overcomes fear.

What would the world look like if we could all be more honest with ourselves first and with others as well? Sharing truth can make us more vulnerable, more accountable, and more redeemed.

Ephesians 6:10–18 describes the FULL ARMOR OF GOD, the first of the six pieces being THE BELT OF TRUTH. 

Let us all be more honest, as Jesus teaches in Matthew. ”Let your yes be yes and your no be no.” 

Jesus’ call to honesty was not just about actions but also about the condition of the heart. Being honest in our words and actions is fundamental to following Christ, as we are called to live transparently before God and others.

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With hope,

Rhonda Kemp, Lacy's Mom

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Celebrating Life the Sober Way: Homecoming Weekend 2025

Every fall, something extraordinary happens at Hope is Alive. Residents from all across the country pack up, head to Oklahoma City, and gather for one amazing Homecoming weekend!

At Hope is Alive, we believe sobriety should be full of fun, not just rules and routines. That’s why we host a Homecoming weekend! Homecoming gives us the chance to celebrate milestones, make memories, and remind everyone just how good life in recovery can be.

This year, over 200 residents and staff from all of our markets joined us for our most unforgettable Homecoming yet!

Homecoming weekend kicked off with house vs. house volleyball at Crossings Community Church on Friday night (shoutout to Tulsa men’s house and the women’s staff team for their wins!).

Saturday brought donuts, dodgeball, and trivia at The Cube, where the North Carolina Crystal Coast men’s house took home the championship, and half-off rent for their crew!

Saturday night started with Project Runway, where residents took to the stage to show off their custom-designed t-shirts, competing for bragging rights as the best designer.

Closing Saturday night out was the Homecoming dance. This year’s theme was “Funky, Fresh, and Clean,” complete with disco lights, mocktails, and nonstop dancing. Every resident, whether they walked into the night intending to dance or not, had an amazing time!

On Sunday, we brought the weekend to an end with worship, a message from Founder Lance Lang, and 42 powerful baptisms!

Overall, Homecoming was a huge success, and a big reminder of why we do what we do: to show that life in recovery is not only possible but also worth celebrating.

“We’ve heard so much great feedback from residents saying they never thought they could have fun in sobriety. But after Homecoming weekend, they know they can. That’s what it’s all about,” shared Julie Quinlan, senior leadership and development manager for Hope is Alive.

A Mother’s Journey Through Grief and Addiction

God has transformed my thinking to “be in agreement with Me,” a phrase I heard so clearly the day I had to give my sweet girl back to Him.

My name is Rhonda Kemp. I lost my daughter, Lacy, at the age of 30 when she passed away from an opioid overdose. My world stopped. Now, it’s forever changed.

The day Lacy was born, she not only helped free me from a bad relationship, but being her mom gave me such a profound love in my heart, a love that I had never experienced before. When she was placed in my arms, I knew I would give her everything within my power to ensure her happiness and safety in this life.

My biggest fear was losing her, as is the biggest fear of many parents entrusted with the care of an amazing child from God. I always thought if I kept her around the right people, in good schools, loved her with all my heart, and kept her in church, then she would grow up with all the tools that she needed to navigate through this world. She was protected from seeing anyone use alcohol or drugs in our home, but after two knee surgeries at the age of 17, she was introduced to opioids.

Several years after those surgeries, she and a new set of friends began to party. That was when she began to abuse opioids. Her struggle with addiction began and lasted between seven and eight years.

After a very painful weekend trying to pass a large kidney stone, Lacy overused opioids along with a sleeping aid called Klonopin, and God called her home. Outside her apartment that same day, I heard God say to me, “Be in agreement with Me.” God spoke those words to me then, and I hold them in my heart and mind to move forward.

Lacy brought life and laughter to everyone she met, and she left us with so many unforgettable memories of how special she was. Although her absence from our family has been devastating, I am forever grateful that I was blessed to be her mom for 30 years.

Finding Hope After Loss

About four years ago, God introduced me to Hope is Alive Ministries. Through Hope is Alive, I have the opportunity to volunteer with residents in recovery, lead a Finding Hope support group for those who love someone in addiction, and lead a Hope After Loss grief support group for those who have lost someone to addiction. The support and love I have found in Hope After Loss has been life-altering. Through Hope After Loss, members always have someone to talk to and lean on through their grief journey.

I have a purpose now, and that is to be there for others, just as my daughter would have been if she had found a way to sobriety. God has taken my pain and used it for something good. His ways are always the best ways, as it says in Isaiah 55:8–9: "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

If you have not joined Hope After Loss, I encourage you to attend a meeting this month. By walking through grief together in the light of God’s Word, we can begin to find strength, purpose, peace, and HOPE in the midst of our circumstances. 

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With hope,

Rhonda Kemp, Lacy’s Mom

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Under the Underpass: The Story of Brie Enterline

“I was just really reaching for absolutely anything to change the way that I felt. So, I tried finding it in men. I tried finding it in alcohol. I tried finding it in various different kinds of drugs. Then I found fentanyl. It's like my whole entire life I was driving in the middle of a thunderstorm, and I was finally under an underpass for just a second, and all the noise stopped.” —Brie Enterline

Those words capture the struggles of countless women everywhere. Women who don’t feel worthy of love. Women who don’t feel important. Women who think everything is their fault. Women who feel alone. Women like Brie, who just need a little hope.

When Brie first came to Hope is Alive, she didn’t really want to be there. She was guarded, unsure, and just wanted to figure out how to stay sober. Little did she know that learning to stay sober would lead her to so much more.

Through the life-changing curriculum at Hope is Alive, Brie discovered healthy ways to face her pain — to process both the grief of her past and the challenges of her present. She found strength in her sobriety.

And through the Hope is Alive community, Brie realized that she didn’t have to walk this journey alone. For the first time, she was surrounded by people who truly understood what she’d been through — people who had felt the same pain, the same shame, and the same desperate search for something to make it all stop. 

Sometimes all it takes is one story to remind us that we’re not alone. Watch Brie’s story below to see how hope brought her back to life.

Addiction Rewritten: Addiction Takes, God Provides

Addiction can take more than we realize — our peace, our identity, our relationships, and even our hope. But God is a provider, not a thief. In this 30-day devotional journey, you’ll uncover how God can meet you in the mess, rewrite your story, and restore what addiction tried to steal. With God, nothing is wasted. Addiction makes false promises, but God always delivers on His. Through Him, you have a powerful testimony worth sharing.

Start the plan here: Addiction Rewritten

HIA Welcomes October 2025 Graduates Into Alumni Association

We are thrilled to celebrate seven incredible men and women who have completed the Hope is Alive program this October! This month, we proudly recognize three graduates from Tulsa, two from Weatherford, one from Dallas, and one from Oklahoma City!

So far in 2025, 38 residents have reached this life-changing milestone. Since the very beginning of Hope is Alive, an inspiring 291 individuals have graduated!

Our alumni association is rapidly growing, and with it, a powerful community of men and women who continue to live out the principles they learned in our program. These alumni are mentoring current residents, serving in their churches, rebuilding families, and showing others that recovery and lasting freedom are possible.

At Hope is Alive, our recovery homes are more than just places to live. We intentionally create communities and environments where radical life change is possible. In our homes, residents find structure, accountability, and encouragement through a faith-based, three-phase program designed to help them grow spiritually, emotionally, and personally.

But the support of Hope is Alive doesn’t end when residents graduate.

According to Julie Quinlan, senior leadership and development manager at HIA, “The alumni association is an instrumental part of Hope is Alive. After a resident graduates from our program and moves out of our homes, it is vital for them to have a community of like-minded people to connect with. The alumni association not only builds community and lifelong friendships, but is also a great resource for when our alumni struggle with any area of life.”

The mission of Hope is Alive is to radically change the lives of drug addicts and alcoholics — and that mission is gaining momentum.‍

Know someone who needs help? Reach out today! We're here and ready to walk this journey with them.

Never forget: hope is alive.

Faith Over Fear

Faith over fear. How many times have we heard this phrase? I know I've heard and read it hundreds of times. It's on t-shirts, mugs, signs, bags, hats, jewelry, journals, keychains, and so much more. Because I see this phrase all the time, I never really stop to think about what it truly means.​

So what does it really mean?

To understand what it means to have faith over fear, we must first understand how fear affects us. Our fears drive us to control. When we are fearful, we enter “fix-it” mode. We feel that if we can control the situation, then we will no longer be worried, anxious, or fearful. We associate control with everything being okay again.

But the opposite is true. Our fear and control cause us to go crazy, because 10 out of 10 times, our trying to control situations/people doesn’t work. Sometimes, we even make the situation worse. The truth is, we need to surrender our control and have FAITH in the One who has the power and control. That’s what it means to have faith over fear.

Faith is trusting and believing in God’s plan. We do not see the whole picture — we just see a part of it. God sees and knows the entire plan, and we must have the FAITH to trust Him. We must not allow our fear to drive us to control.

“For I am the LORD your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.” Isaiah 41:13

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Under Addiction’s Control

Addiction controls the person and ALL those around.

I recently heard someone share that statement with me, and I believe it to be 100% true. When addiction hits our homes, it not only controls the one struggling with substances but also those who love that person.

That statement reminds me of a marionette. The person controlling the strings above is the addiction, and the puppets below are the ones impacted by the addiction: family and friends. Our lives become consumed and dictated by addiction. Addiction tells us what to do, what not to do, how we should act, how we should not act, how we should feel, how we should not feel, where we should be, and where we should not be. The list goes on and on. ​

To get out from under addiction’s control, we must cut the strings. A marionette cannot be controlled without strings. 

But how do we cut the strings?

First, we have to recognize and acknowledge that we are being controlled by addiction. Then, we must do the hard thing and detach ourselves from it (i.e. cut the strings). We also need to set boundaries that protect us financially, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually (If I feel… then I will), as well as seek professional counseling or therapy. Don’t be afraid to say you need help!

Remember, you can do hard things and give yourself grace. Cry if you need to. Scream if you need to. Do what you need to do. And continue to stay connected to a local or Zoom Finding Hope group.

“May the Lord give strength to his people! May the Lord bless his people with peace!” Psalm 29:11

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The Roles We Play in Addiction

When we love someone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol, it’s easy to take on roles that were not designed for us. It’s easy to take on roles that we create rather than just the one God assigned us.

God designed us to play one important role in our loved ones’ lives.

Maybe it's mom.

Maybe it’s son.

Maybe it’s wife.

Maybe it’s brother.

Maybe it’s grandmother.

Maybe it’s friend.

Whatever it is, God designed us to play that specific role only. But how often do we forget what living one role looks like? 

When our loved ones struggle, we begin to take on the roles of therapist, sponsor, nurse, secretary, life-coach, maid, investigator, banker, shopper, and/or taxi driver. We do everything and anything to feel like we are helping them. But we are not honoring God or helping our loved ones when we take on the roles we are not called to be.

If we take on roles that God has not designed for us, then we are not able to fulfill the roles that He has designed for us.

God created us for a purpose. He selected us as our loved ones’ mom, son, wife, brother, grandmother, friend, etc. for a reason. So, ask God to remind you of what that role looks like, and ask Him for the strength to get back to that role.

“Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches.” 1 Corinthians 7:17

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Navigating Change During Addiction Recovery

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Have you heard that sentence before? Have you stopped to think about what it means?

If you keep doing what you're doing, you're going to keep getting the same results you're currently getting.

It seems simple. But if it’s simple, why is it so hard? It’s hard because change can be scary.

If you want to lose weight, you can’t keep eating the same things you have been eating, and you can’t keep sitting on your couch. You have to make daily changes in what you are doing to see results. It isn’t easy at first, but the end result is worth it. Does it happen overnight? No. But can you see change over time? Yes.

The same thing applies to our loved ones. If something doesn’t change, you are going to be stuck in the same cycle, completely miserable. Just like losing weight isn’t easy, addiction recovery isn’t easy either. 

That’s where Finding Hope comes in. Finding Hope is a support group for loved ones of addicts and alcoholics. It’s a community that will be there with you each step of the way. They will be there to encourage you, support you, listen to you, and pray with you.

So, what do you need to change? What have you been telling yourself? Think about what could happen if you actually listen to yourself and make a change.

Today is the day to begin changing things. Maybe it’s setting a firm boundary. Maybe it's no longer fixing the problems that aren’t yours to fix. Maybe you stop the enabling behavior you keep telling yourself you are going to stop. Or, maybe you are going to start saying “yes” to yourself and “no” to others. Whatever it is, do it.

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13

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How People Hurt People

You’ve probably heard the saying, “Hurt people hurt people.” It’s one of those phrases that sounds simple, but the more you think about it, the more complex it becomes.

When we’re carrying pain, it often spills out onto others. Maybe we’re short with someone who didn’t do anything wrong. Maybe we try to get even with the addict we love. Or maybe we just shut down completely and push people away. Sometimes we don’t even realize it — we’re just reacting from a place that’s already hurting.

And the same thing happens the other way around. People who are hurting will sometimes hurt us. Our loved ones turn to addiction because of a hurt they don’t know how to heal, in turn hurting everyone around them. It’s not that they want to hurt us — it’s that they don’t always realize they are. 

Pain has a way of multiplying if we don’t deal with it in a healthy way. Something someone said, a betrayal, a deep loss — whatever it is — if we don’t process it, it can show up later in ways we don’t expect. We start snapping at people. We grow distant. We hold grudges. We assume the worst. Before we know it, we’re not only hurting from something, but also hurting others because of it.

That’s the cycle. And the only way to stop it is to recognize what’s really going on inside of us.

We can’t control other people, but we can control how we respond to them. We can set healthy boundaries, step back from chaos, show ourselves love, stop reacting impulsively, and seek forgiveness when we realize we’ve caused pain. These choices lead us toward healing, peace, joy, and ultimately — hope.

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31–32

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How Addiction Impacts Trust

When we love someone with a substance use disorder, we quickly lose all trust. I say it all the time, you lose trust in bucketfuls and gain it back in teaspoons. But today I want to ask you, where do you put your trust?

We should not put our trust in earthly things, but rather put our trust in God. But how many times have we tried to do God's job for Him? How many times have we gotten in His way for His perfect plan?

I remember standing in my friend’s kitchen crying when my husband was at the peak of his addiction, but I also remember telling her that I knew God had a plan and I believed someday I would get to help another wife going through this same storm. What I didn’t know was that I would quit my dream job as a kindergarten teacher and work for a non-profit organization where I get to give HOPE to so many families. God does have a plan, and we must trust His plan.

One Finding Hope member said, “I pray for God to close the right doors and open the right doors for my son.” That statement made me think. If we start closing doors for our loved ones on our own, are they the right doors that God has planned to be shut? If we start opening doors for our loved ones, are they the right doors that God has planned to be open?

Each day, each hour, each minute, each second, place your loved one back in God’s hands and trust in God’s perfect plan. We must let go and let God.

“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.” Psalm 35:7

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