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When You Can’t Fix It, Be Still
Finding Hope Family Support Groups
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Finding Hope Team
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When You Can’t Fix It, Be Still
Last week, we talked about how hard it can be to be still — especially when life feels out of control. I shared how, during my ex-husband’s addiction, I spent so much time trying to fix, manage, and carry everything myself. I thought my constant motion was helping, but it was actually keeping me from letting God move.
Psalm 46:10 reminds us to “Be still and know that I am God.” This is a command to stop striving, stop fighting, and trust Him to do what only He can do.
So how do we actually “be still” in the middle of chaos, pain, and addiction? Here are a few ways that have helped me:
- Anchor to God: Spend even just five minutes a day in His presence. Pray. Breathe. Rest.
- Anchor to recovery: Keep attending groups, not just for your loved one but for yourself.
- Anchor to community: Surround yourself with people who remind you of truth. For me, that has been my Finding Hope group.
- Anchor to self-care: Exercise, journal, worship, or whatever gives your soul room to breathe.
One practice that helped me was journaling. I began setting aside a few minutes each day to write out my worries, fears, and prayers. On paper, everything felt clearer. The weight that lived in my head and heart suddenly had a place to go.
At first, it felt uncomfortable — I wanted to hold on, to fix, to control. But over time, journaling became a rhythm of release. Each time I found myself grasping for control again, I would open my journal, pour out my thoughts, and surrender them to God. Writing gave me space to breathe and reminded me I didn’t have to carry it all.
It didn’t come naturally at first. But over time, I began to taste the peace that comes from letting God be God.
And just like the story of bamboo — years of hidden growth before it suddenly shoots up 90 feet — our faith often looks unseen for a long time. But under the surface, God is working.
Friend, I know the hustle-bustle world tells you to fight harder, do more, control everything. But God says: “Be still. Stop striving. Trust Me.”
He is your refuge. He is your strength. He will fight your battles. Step back, open your eyes, and let Him do what only He can do.
With hope,
Darcie Stephens, Finding Hope Coordinator
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