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Recovery for Loved Ones of Addicts
Finding Hope Family Support Groups
Written By
Finding Hope Team
Recovery for Loved Ones of Addicts
“I’m not the one drinking or ruining our family. Why do I need recovery?”
That was my first reaction when I discovered my husband’s addiction. The idea of sacrificing my time and searching for childcare felt unfair and overwhelming. Over time, it took its toll on me and I realized that I needed help. I realized that recovery isn’t just for those who struggle with substances. Recovery is for the family of the addict, too.
Recovery means a return to a normal state of health, mind, or strength. Throughout the time of my husband’s active addiction, and even as he began to seek recovery, my state of health had deteriorated, and I needed to do something to change it. Did you catch that? I NEEDED TO DO SOMETHING — whether my husband was sober or not, or regardless of how he was doing in his recovery, I had to choose to work on myself and seek my own recovery and healing. I had to stop saying “no” to myself and start saying “yes.” I had to make changes.
My recovery started the moment I picked up the phone and scheduled my first counseling appointment. After just one appointment, I recognized my need for community with others. So, I stepped into my first Finding Hope meeting in the summer of 2015. That’s when I started to learn about codependency, enabling, boundaries, and what true self-care looked like. I began to work on myself and the journey of returning to a normal state of health, mind, and strength in July of 2015, and that journey continues today.
What is holding you back from your own recovery? What excuses are you giving yourself? Are you ready to return to a normal state of health, mind, and strength? You can start today — or maybe you can restart today. Recovery helps us regain balance, happiness, and strength while giving our loved ones the space to take responsibility for their own journey. Remember to give yourself grace and forgiveness through this process. You can do it.
"Nevertheless, I will bring health and healing to it; I will heal my people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security.” Jeremiah 33:6
With hope,
Amy LaRue, Director of Finding Hope
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